Lovely Love!!

This one's for err.... You are the Best

Recently SK and me were discussing what exactly is love and he just refused to believe that it has to be experienced to know what love is. He kept asking for that extra thingy which diffrentiates love from Infatuation.

What is Love? hmmm.. as a person who thinks he is in love... i think i have to try and answer it.

Love is:

Feeling of happiness at the others success, and sadness at the other's grief
Feeling of frustration when u dont meet or see each other
the urge to Keep logging onto orkut every few minutes to chk if she has left u a scrap.
The sense of grief/remorse that overcomes u when u have a quarrel.
Doing something just because she wants u to.
Compromise
That extra thingy u feel when she's with u.

I am sorry Karthik, but to me it seems like u will only discover 'that extra thingy' when u fall in love.. Thats the way the world works sometimes , u gotta accept the truth.
A Feynman quote will settle the issue I think(although its about the unreasonable effectiveness of mathematics) : "... for the fundamental law of physics we still need mathematics,"...... "... the more laws we find, and the deeper we penetrate nature.. Every one of our laws is a purely mathematical statement in rather complex and abstruse mathematics... it is impossible to explain honestly the beauties of the laws of nature in a way that people feel, without their having some deep understanding of mathematics. I am sorry, but this seems to be the case."

Dear karthik.. the same with love...it is impossible I think to explain the beauty of it all to a person who has'nt experienced the same. How much ever you may try to quantify it, i think it finally boils down to "that extra thingy" as u choose to call it.

The above was my answer to the question about what exactly love is, but now recent events have occurred which made me realise what a big blunder I had been making. I had completely missed out a point which I now believe is the underlying fabric of love itself!

My B'day is approaching and my Girl Friend, nah my soul wanted to buy me a gift. Nothing exceptional about that, many young people gift each other on birthdays. She wanted to buy me a watch, so that i would stop carrying my mobile to exams and more importantly stop answering when she called (have Done it three times!). And she wanted me to come along, so that I could choose for myself what I liked. Now when we reach there, I am completely taken aback when she pulls out a thick wad of money and announces her budget; which is staggering.

Now there is again nothing exceptional about people giving expensive gifts to profess their love for someone, although I wouldnt advocate it too much since I believe the expense of the gift is in no way a true indicator of love. A gift when given from the heart is much more valuable. So I started berating her for wanting to spend so much and how it was'nt right. Then she reveals to me something which completely bowls me over!
She had been working as a sales girl, doing odd jobs, doing surveys etc to save up the amount for the gift, a gift for Me!! She was without second thought giving away her months of labour, her Blood and sweat literally just so that she could buy me a gift. She could have spent the money going to movies, buying stuff for herself, basically enjoyed the fruits of her hard earned labour. But no, she spent it all on me in a flash. She decided that the joy of giving me something, of seing me happy was worth much more than all that i have enlisted above.
She Had sacrificed all that for me, and that My friend I believe is Love!!

The desire to give away all, the desire to give up on so many of the things you have always wanted to do, just to see that Smile , that feeling of unrestrained pleasure on another person's face!

What else can that desire be called my friend, but Love??

This, I sincerely believe now is the most enduring definition of love!




Hoping to keep this thread going... Further introspection may bring out something even better